AAAL Community - Why Getting Mad and not getting even is Good For You

Now you don’t need to think twice to get mad because it makes you healthier!
Dramatic. This word fits to briefly describe the life of modern women in big cities. Not only about the appearance, but also emotion. Now, it’s no longer a time to keep the feeling yourself. Feel free to let it out. You are welcome to put hand on waist or talk in high voice while you are wearing super elegant dress. Let’s look at Tyra Banks, an ex-super model, in one episode of America’s Next Top Model. This pretty woman who also the producer of the show suddenly becomes so emotional when seeing one of the contestants was chatting about her and thinks that the competition was only a joke. She who usually looks elegant, is now yelling and doesn’t care if the camera is taping. In certain times, act expressively like Tyra Banks is necessary. But when and how? Read this first!

Shout it out! Not like men, women tend to keep their feeling inside themselves for a long time. Why? There is an ancient tradition that it is not polite for a woman to let her emotion out. Definitely, it needs to be revised, mmediately.  Indeed angry is a negative emotion that has to be controlled for the sake of peace. But it doesn’t mean you keep silent. Sometimes anger can be a good way to change someone’s bad attitude and teach other to be assertive. Besides, keeping emotional inside is dangerous for both physical and psychical health.  Recently, the British Medical Journal released an article that expressive women have lower risk to have a heart attack. On the contrary, weak women who probably is liked Bree Can De Kamp in Desperate Housewives has higher risk to have stroke and heart attack. More scary is the result of University of Michigan research that women who keep their anger inside has 3 times higher risk of cardiovascular diseases and cancer. Psychologically, it will make your feeling restless, worry, and sad for such a long period. At the end, you may become paranoid!
The Inner Demons  The best suggestion is to demonstrate “emotional efficiency” from now on. Use your emotion wisely and you can be angry when it is triggered. Try to express your annoyance normally. There are 3 scenarios of anger to know. First, “interpersonal” anger which usually happens between friends. “Environmental” anger is such when stranger steps on your foot during sale without asking apologize after it. Lastly, “unattainable goal” is upset to yourself when your goal is not achieved. Just for information, an expressive woman is more optimists and has more control. Besides, hormone of katekholamine which trigger the anger is good to make your thought clear and alert!
Screaming with grace  As a stylist woman, you have to know how to express your anger elegantly. Not by throwing cell phone or mentioning some types of animals. Try to control it and keep using your brain. Cool down and let your emotion out later. Talk directly about the main problem to the person you are angry with and don’t discuss about past mistakes. Also, look around before reacting, you can not scream to your friend in the crowd of a coffee shop. And don’t ever scream to the unguilty person so you don’t need to create another problem.
Next, don’t delay your anger. Often a woman collects all the problems only to be assertive. So, surely it is very important to control emotion. However, you still need to express it at the right time.